How to Win Friends and Influence People

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Six ways to make people like you

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

Win people to your way of thinking

1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

A leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

अचीव मेंटल पास एंड सक्सेस

How to achieve mental peace and success

Everyone wants success in his life and it is nothing but part and parcel in our personality development. Mental peace plays a prominent role in achieving the success. Everywhere people like to see the smiling face and serene mind.

How to achieve mental peace and success:

1. Fearlessness:

It is said that a fearless mind can achieve anything. Where there is no fear, there will be no tension and anxiety and automatically peace prevails there. Then our mind works clearly and is in balanced state. As we know that, balanced mind never makes hasty decisions. Serene Mind acts as a loving mother and it provides you with right answers and suggestions depending upon you requirements and the situations.

2. Constant reading:

One can attain knowledge through constant reading and observation. As we know well, “knowledge is strength”. We have to behave according to conditions and situations prevailing there. Timely act brings success, for example, getting the job or passing in the competitive exams.

3. Will power:

Persons having this power are usually away from weaknesses like laziness, postponing mentality, etc. They move towards success with a style which is peculiar to them. They never become slaves to bad habits and deeds. They are with sufficient mental strength.

4. Discipline:

It comes only with will power. People having this power can face the challenges and problems that occur in life, with confidence and courage. Disciplined persons rarely fail in either professional or personal life. Discipline, perseverance, patience and self-belief are the chief characteristics in personality development.

5. Punctuality:

If you wish that your future should be perfect and successful, preparations and planning for the future should be done now itself that is in the present time only. Present day is equal to ready cash payment and tomorrow is equal to cheque payment (may be bounced).

The golden word: “Never postpone a thing till tomorrow, what can be done today”.

6. Honesty:

The foundation for anybody’s life is “honesty” only. Honesty is the best policy to follow in life.
If you commit any mistake, accept it and correct it honestly. Don't disturb your mental peace with dishonest things.

7. Self –confidence:

History is created by few persons who believed in themselves. They will go against convictions and achieve success and create history. They will never stop innovative thinking for the fear of failure.

The great leader and president of America, Abraham Lincoln, usually did things according to his consciousness and became world famous and successful in life. If you want reach to your goal in life, self-confidence is highly essential.

“All power is within you” – Hindu spiritual guru Swami Vivekananda.